Lonely to Happy in 123

Feeling Lonely?! Understand nothing is "wrong with you". As a human we are prone to loneliness, especially when you've been stuck in the same routine or making a life-changing transition. Here's some easy & quick tips....


First: notice the difference --> Loneliness vs Solitude. Loneliness is when you are unhappy to be alone. Solitude is when you are happy to be alone. You're not in solitude when you want to be with people. There are people out there who you can relate to and become close with. Imagine this is the last day you will ever be alone.

 

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• Evaluate your "friends". Are you always paying for a round of drinks, after being DD for the 4th time this month? Sometimes being alone is better than being around bad people. Do you get back what you give? If not, making less time for your current friends could leave you with more time to find new ones.
• Set up social activities when you're not feeling lonely. Anticipate. Empty days in the schedule? Get online and find an event. Is it going to be 90 degrees? Pack the beach bag now.
• Read or go to museums/theater/dance. "Art works" every time.
• Consider volunteer work. Not only will you give back to the community, but you'll help yourself. Nothing like a win win situation. Who knows maybe you'll even meet your next significant other.
• Blast the music. As much as the overplayed songs can get annoying. They can actually boost your mood. Whether it's Jay-Z, Coldplay, Ingrosso, or Katy Perry, you'll be on your way to a new you.

• Learn to meditate so that you have the experience of being loved and nurtured emotionally by other sources than human beings. You don't need to sit Indian style and chant, but a little thinking (about yourself) never killed anyone.
• Consider getting a pet! Unconditional love and can offer you loyal company. Walking a dog can also be a great way of meeting other people... an accessory hard yo resist.
• Try not to get stuck into a rut with routines; routines allow you to go on auto-pilot, allowing you to day-dream about "what could be." Even worse, you're less likely to act on those day-dreams because you'll be comfortable with your routines. Shake things up! 
• "Fake it until you make it." We've all faked a few things, some not appropriate to discuss, but it really does help! Deal with the issues as they come up and you'll find that solutions will come to you.